09/06/2007
Love and marriage: different????
I heard one of my frnd Pushp saying that there’s lot diff between love and marriage….Really I use to hear him but I never believed on his theory by hearth that time as if I never accepted his saying…. But I belive it now…why?? Even I don’t know…..
Love is pure….this z very true….u never know when it is going to happen but it happens .ur heart doesn’t think abt caste, kundli and family, age, education..nothing…u just fall in love becoz u feel for him..
My frnd Pushp explained me lot many times diff between this two…yesterday night I told him that yes I think he was right…love belongs to u….but ur marriage involves ur parents and hell lot of things…..while marrying smone u have to think abt ur elder or younger ones and ur parents ...but love ..u think nothing..not even a single bit ..u just love sm1 without asking ur parents…
Lets point out some difference……I may be right or wrong…but this z wat I know nd I think::
Love is simple marriage is complex…..
Love is fortunate marriage is decision…
Love needs nothing, not even d permission of d one to whom u love but for marriage u need his/her permission…Point naa…..valid point….Even God can’t stop u for loving smone hmmmm…
Love can happen without meeting without talking ..but for marriage u need to meet, talk and know each other……smtimes we love smone with whom we never had chat, metting, phone calls..like d very famous one “ Love in first sight”..that doesn’t work with marriage.
Love z always pure but not marriage ….many times marriages r compromises between two but love is never a compromise….
Love happens once only…dat sensation will cm for only one but marriages u can marry n number of times he he he.. Yes of course after getting proper divorce
Break-up is a term that can happen in marriages but not in love…Love never ends, never raze; I heard smwhere that it goes on and on only…
So d million dollar question now come to pass that wat shd one do..shd he/she believe in love and express his/her love and then regret that his/her parents or whatever constraint stopped one from getting married….or if u feel u love smone… stop urself ther only, chk out with all options whether possible to get married or not and then let the second one know abt this….well this is a question in my mind..am not getting answer…probably life will make me to understand this…
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I wud like to take the opportunity to post first comment on this blog as all is based on MY Philosophy.
I m trying to answer the million dollar question, and expecting NOTHING- I know poo dont hv such a big amount :)
NOTHING - Love expects NOTHING - NO THINKING
When u r not thinking while falling in love then why to think in letting the loved one to know about it.
I think u need to Go and Just Say.
I think it feels really good that someone loves u. Doesn't it?
and what I believe is "Do whatever u can do today eventhough u hv rarest hopes of success, So that in future u will not think "Kash" "Agar".........
And who knows u both can make a way which is impossible for a one.
Posted by: pushp | 09/07/2007
Hey P.J.,
you forgot few thing.....
Love is not demanding but the marriage is.
Love is not bound with responsibility(as lovers never care for others more than them) to the society but the marriage is.
Love could be a self imposed philosophy buy a marriage can't.
Love is to pamper but the marriage is to nurture the family relationship & bonding.
And , That's not all.
You marry your lover because "YOU" want it ; but people want you to be married to a girl because "THEY" want it.
And ,obviously "they" know better than you.
Anywz, this talk is never going to end. even civilizations have not come up with the right answers.
I think "YOU SHOULD MARRY WHERE YOUR FAMILY WANT YOU TO MARRY" .
Posted by: Manoj Gangwar | 10/03/2007
I do believe that love should not be demanding.By any chance any mate out of two in love thinks that there luv z demanding a forceful marriage then without other partner's wish then they should not marry.
I do agree and believe in the difference between marriage and love. Its not anyone not even your partner should make you forcefully take the marriage decision.It should be only you who should decide on this extremely important point of life.No one in this world could do that for you not even your luv partner.
Now as you are in dilemma of taking decision in between luv and family,take few days off from your luv.Think a lot.And just let him know your decision,make him understand whats good for both.If it comes against you two getting married,you both may suffer for few days,but soon or later you both will come up good.And off course the family will also be happy for you.Just remember one thing you should be happy for your life.
Posted by: papylon | 12/08/2007
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